Allow him to do. Parents should try not to do for their child what he can do for himself, including things like homework, chores or making phone calls for play dates.
Respect for adults. Parents should teach their child to respect adults, even if parents don’t agree with teachers’ or coaches’ decisions. Bad-mouthing an adult sets a child up for negativity with teachers and coaches.
Hold him accountable. Let a child suffer the consequences of his actions. Parents shouldn’t bail him out just because he is suffering as a result of a bad decision or an impulsive behavior.
Pick your battles and allow mistakes. If given developmentally appropriate choices, children will invariably make mistakes that they can grow and learn from. When this occurs, parents have an opportunity to provide guidance, comfort and support, as opposed to being viewed as the controller before the mistake.
Learn to sit back. It’s hard for parents to sit back and watch, but how else can a child learn? Parents need to remember that parts of life are painful, and the sooner a child learns how to adapt, the more resilient he’ll be when confronted with daily life challenges.
Dr. Kate Roberts is a psychologist and parent coach on the North Shore. Questions can be directed to www.drkateroberts.com www.twitter.com/DrKateParenting, www.facebook.com/Dr.KateRoberts or www.pinterest.com/DrKateParenting.