:Dear Abby: My 26-year-old daughter was married last year, but four months after the wedding, her husband was arrested for child molestation that had occurred years before. She filed for divorce immediately.
In the meantime, she has met someone and is now pregnant. They want to be married as soon as her divorce is final. My question is, what kind of ceremony would be appropriate in this case, especially since her father and I are church pastors in a small town?
:Dear Small Town: If your daughter had written to me, I would have advised her not to rush into another marriage so quickly, and that if she hasn’t already done so, she should seek some counseling because of what she has been through.
However, because she and the father of her baby are determined to tie the knot as soon as possible, their ceremony should be low-key, with a few close friends and family attending. The ceremony could be either a religious one or a civil one, depending upon their preference.
I hope their union will be a happy and successful one.
:Dear Abby: At what age should parents stop worrying about you? I am 41 years old, but in my parents’ eyes I am still a child.
I am an independent woman and feel like I am not living the life I deserve, and I don’t think it’s fair. I do everything by myself, and I want them to know that if something happens to them, I’ll be fine, and they should stop worrying. Am I wrong to feel this way?
:Deborah in Ohio
:Dear Deborah: You are not wrong. However, your parents may be clinging to you not because they are worried about what will happen to you if something happens to THEM.