Be prepared, because he will probably deny he has a problem. Unless you want to become a miserable nervous wreck, you must not relent. The explosion, the guilt, the “honeymoon” period afterward are similar to the cycle of domestic violence, so be aware of that.
Dear Abby: My beautiful son died five years ago. He chose his death by hanging — suicide. He had suffered for years, and all our love couldn’t help him. He once told me, “Mom, I don’t want to live like this anymore. I want to be with Jesus.”
We know we will see him again. Still, I find it hard to tell people how he died. I know I don’t have to, but it still haunts me sometimes. I’d like to know how others who have been through the same thing feel about this. Thank you for your support.
Mom in Connecticut
Dear Mom: I’m sorry about the death of your son, who suffered from severe chronic depression. When there is a suicide, the family can experience a range of emotions — including anger, sadness and guilt. When a child commits suicide, there can also be feelings of self-recrimination. If that’s the case with you, please seek counseling.
I’m sure that when your letter is published, I’ll hear from readers who will share their experiences. If you will visit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention website, www.afsp.org, you can search for a suicide survivor support group in your area, because talking with others who have experienced this can be helpful.
Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.