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April 26, 2013

Dear Abby: Woman who married young wants a do-over

:Dear Abby: “Jake” and I have been married more than 20 years. I married before I was 18, and I’m not even 40 yet. Jake is seven years my senior. We have had our ups and downs, and although the last five years have been fine, I want more out of life than sitting home watching TV or hanging out with him.

We have two children. One is away at college and the other starting high school. When I talk to my husband about wanting to do things, he says I should have done them when I was younger. But I married him before I was even an adult!

Is it wrong to want to go out and do things I never got to do when I was a teenager? It makes me question whether or not I want to be married to him anymore. I still love him, but I have changed.

Jake insists we don’t need counseling, and I just need to get over it and accept that this is my life. What if I don’t want to regret what I have never had a chance to do?

:Wants More Out West

:Dear Wants More: I’m sorry, but you can’t relive your lost teenage years.

I wish you had been more specific about what it is you want to do. If it’s go out and have some fun, perhaps some of your girlfriends would like to go with you. Instead of sitting home, you and Jake could socialize with other couples. If you’re into sports, why not join a women’s sports team? If you’re not, how about a book club? You don’t have to sit around and vegetate.

You also didn’t mention whether you completed high school. If you didn’t receive a diploma, you would be well-served to work on earning your GED, which could widen your horizons and opportunities considerably.

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