:Dear Abby: I have two daughters, 11 and 14. They fight over many things, but what gets to me is the way they fight over what television shows to watch.
My younger daughter has nightmares if she watches even mildly dramatic cop/lawyer-type shows. However, my older daughter loves them.
At home, I’d have one kid watch TV in one room and the other in the other room. However, when they’re at the sitter’s house, which has only one TV, they call me at work and fight over the phone over who watches what. They both accuse me of favoring the other.
How do I deal with this fairly without upsetting them? And how do I keep my younger daughter from having nightmares?
:Doing my Best in Kentucky
:Dear Doing: Because your younger daughter has nightmares after viewing shows that create anxiety, she shouldn’t be forced to do it. When they are at their sitter’s, they should alternate days when each has control of the remote control. When your older girl has it, the younger one should be encouraged to read a book of her choosing and/or listen to music. When the younger one gets to do the choosing, the older one should do the same.
:Dear Abby: Christmas and birthday gifts I will never use have accumulated around my house. I’d like to have a yard sale, but many of the items came from close friends and family. I feel guilty getting rid of them because the people who gave them to me obviously meant well. Would selling them be wrong?
One gift was from my mother. I live at home, so she will notice if I stick it in the garage sale. I can’t let this extra stuff sit around. It’s taking up space, and I need the money for a very expensive college. But I’m afraid of people finding out that I don’t want their presents. What should I do?