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May 16, 2013

Dear Abby: Woman needs courage to end man’s plan for future together

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“’John,’ I have enjoyed your friendship, but I’m not in love with you. I had hoped that as time passed I would fall in love with you, but it hasn’t happened and now I realize it isn’t going to. I want to deal with my health issues on my own. I don’t want you to be my caretaker. What I DO want is to end our relationship so you can find a woman who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Sadly, that’s not me — but I wish you well and ... goodbye.”

Do not expect him to welcome this dose of reality, but those are the words that will set you — and him — free.

:Dear Abby: I am a veteran and while I have spent this past year in school, I can’t seem to connect with any of the younger students there. It’s disheartening, to be honest, and I feel it’s part of the reason I can’t enjoy school at my age (23) after all my experiences in combat.

I can’t decide whether to drop out and join a private security company, or tough it out and deal with these kids who don’t take education seriously. I miss work at the same time. Any thoughts?

:Torn In Milford, Conn.

:Dear Torn: The students you describe are at a very different level of maturity than you — and I don’t mean chronologically. After having experienced combat, you have a different perspective on what’s important in life than someone who hasn’t been tested.

You have EARNED the right to a college degree, so please don’t waste the opportunity. If you complete your education, you will have more career options than if you quit now. If you feel you want to go into security work after graduation, that option will still be open. Others may not be.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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