Dear Abby: I am the mother of two girls. One of them has a lot of emotional problems. My husband is gone for months at a time due to his job. I have told him many times that I want him to find another job that would have him home more often. He always says that there are no jobs that will pay what he’s making now.
I know that we need a good-paying job, but I need my husband home, and my girls need their father. With all of our daughter’s issues, everything falls on my shoulders, and I don’t feel I can handle it alone much longer. We don’t live near family, and I have found it hard to make friends due to my daughter’s acting out. How do I get my husband to understand?
Married Single Mom
Dear Mom: I understand how stressful it must be to have all the responsibility for raising your daughters on your shoulders. And feeling as isolated as you do only intensifies your feelings. If your husband doesn’t already understand what you are going through, I doubt there is much you can say that will convince him to quit his lucrative job and help with the children.
Because he is gone so much — and making good money — consider moving yourself and your daughters closer to your family so you can have some respite when you need it. And in the meantime, find a therapist for yourself. Perhaps your daughter’s doctor or your personal physician can recommend one.
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