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February 21, 2014

Dear Abby: Woman hides at work to avoid in-laws

Dear Abby: I have been married to a wonderful man for 17 years, and we have two children. My life should be perfect, and it is — until it’s time to visit my in-laws.

We don’t see them more than a few times a year, but I’ve taken to pleading work as an excuse not to see them on holidays or special occasions if I can avoid it. I have even spent Christmas at home alone because I can’t stand how verbally abusive my in-laws are.

My mother-in-law admits to being mean and nasty. She says she doesn’t care because she “hates people.” They are now pressuring my husband to move nearer to them. The thought makes me sick.

My life could have been so different if these relatives were nice, normal people. I wanted us to be friends. I’m a kind person, but I have never been good enough for them.

I would never dream of saying some of the things they have said to me. They’re upper middle class and I’m “trash.” I never thought when I married my husband that his family would enjoy making me miserable.

The Easter holidays are coming, and I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid one day the buildup of anger will make me explode. How can I make their verbal abuse stop? I’m sick of being the brunt of jokes and sarcastic comments.

“Outlaw” In Arizona

Dear “Outlaw”: If your husband is “wonderful,” why has he tolerated his parents’ treating you this way for 17 years? He should have insisted from the beginning of your marriage that you be treated with respect. I can’t believe the two of you would expose your children to this multiple times a year.

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