Dear Abby: I’m 14. Last summer I went to camp in a different state with my cousin “Mary.” I told my friends at school about our adventures, and a couple of them said they want to go there with me next summer.
Mary and I don’t get a lot of time together, and camp is one of the only times when I can see her. I don’t want my friends to come. How can I tell them that without hurting their feelings?
Torn In Texas
Dear Torn: Out-of-state summer camps can be expensive, and although your friends might want to come to yours, it remains to be seen if their families can afford to send them. However, if it turns out that they will be going next summer, you should let them know beforehand that you may not be seeing a lot of them after you arrive because it’s the only time you get to spend with your cousin during the year. The chances of their being hurt will be less if you tell them in advance.
Dear Abby: My husband and I enjoy entertaining and having family over to celebrate birthdays and holidays. Our son’s birthday is approaching and I’d like to get your view of something my husband’s older sister, “Jane,” has been doing.
Jane is 55, divorced and has been dating her co-worker “Chuck” for a couple of years. At our celebrations, after everyone is done eating and cake has been served, Jane makes up a large plate of food (without asking) and invites her boyfriend over to eat.
Chuck shows up, stands at the kitchen counter and devours the food while complaining about it. Then he helps himself to more and leaves. He never says thank you, never participates in the celebration and, frankly, wasn’t invited to begin with.