Losing The Battle At Home
Dear Losing The Battle: You have described a child who is unable to handle frustration or control his emotions. When a child is 2 or 3, this kind of behavior is understandable. But by age 7, your son should have learned to manage his frustration more appropriately.
If his poor sportsmanship continues, it will cause problems with his peers. You should discuss this with him while he is rational, BEFORE you play any games with him. Explain that games are supposed to be fun, and “when we lose, we are given the chance to learn from our mistake.” The same is true in sports. Athletes use their mistakes to improve their skills.
It might also be helpful to impose consequences when your son acts out. But if that doesn’t help him, then you should have him evaluated physically and neurologically to make sure there is nothing medically wrong with him.
Dear Abby: I’m an 11-year-old girl, and my mom has a boyfriend who lives with us. Mom said that he comes first in her life. When she told me that, I felt like she didn’t love me anymore. He tries to be my father, acts like he owns the house and gets me in deep trouble. I have considered moving in with my dad. What should I do?
Preteen In Florida
Dear Preteen: Now that your mother has made her priorities clear, I think it is time you discussed this with your father. If he is willing and able to take care of you, you might be better off living with him.
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