, Salem, MA


November 2, 2012

Dear Abby: Steer daughter to counseling after son-in-law is in jail


P.S. I wholeheartedly agree she would be better off without him.

Dear Abby: I live in Arizona, where the temperature can hit 100 degrees and we get 300-plus days of sunshine every year. I always have my 5-month-old son wear his sunglasses when he goes outside, and I get the most asinine comments from total strangers! Everything from “Can I have his autograph?” to “Does he think he’s cool?” How can they be so dumb? People, tiny eyes need protection, too!

A New Mommy

Dear New Mommy: The individuals you describe aren’t “dumb”; they are making a failed attempt at humor. However, I showed your letter to Beverly Hills ophthalmologist Peter Cornell, M.D., who told me:

“It’s ideal for everyone — regardless of age — to protect their eyes from ultraviolet light. And it’s advisable for babies to be protected when they’re outside. But it is NOT as ‘crucial’ with children as it is for older individuals, because their bodies are better able to repair oxidative damage. That said, ultraviolet light is not the friend of anyone’s eyes.”

Dear Abby: I was married recently but kept my maiden name. As wedding gifts, we received two sets of towels monogrammed with my husband’s last initial, and a plaque for the front of the house — “House of (his last name), Established 2012.”

While we appreciate this generosity, I’m sure we will not put the items to use. (The plaque was from a close family member on my husband’s side who knew I would be keeping my name.) How do we handle this?

Perplexed Newlywed

in Cleveland

@text1_boldintro\::Dear Perplexed: Here’s how: Consign the plaque to your husband’s man-cave (or toss it), use the towels for something other than display, and write a gracious thank-you to the family members who gave them to you for their thoughtfulness.


Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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