I socialize with people my age in church circles, card clubs and dining-out groups who can’t understand why I’m always so busy. They don’t reach out except to people they already know. As people get older, that group is constantly shrinking. Join a religious group, community clubs and organizations. Volunteer to read at schools and libraries. Visit a senior group or center.
Many people of all ages fear they won’t be accepted. But if they show up with a friendly attitude, they will be. You have to contribute — whether it’s with a smile, an opening remark or some other welcoming gesture.
I served in the military, taught Sunday school, led Girl Scouts, garden clubs, church and neighborhood groups while following my husband through eight states and raising three children. My husband was often away in his business, but we had a strong, supportive marriage. He joined me in many activities when he could be home.
I think many people have forgotten we must give in order to get. When we reach out to others, most of the time those people reach back. — Not Lonely In Woodstock, Ill.
Dear Not Lonely: It’s easy to see why you have a wide circle of friends. Your positive energy leaps off the page.
There are two types of people in the world: those who come into a room and their attitude says, “Here I am!” and those who come into a room and their attitude says, “There you are!” You are one of the latter. If people want a warm welcome, they should keep in mind that the happier they are to see others, the happier others will be to see them.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.