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January 14, 2014

Dear Abby: Grandmother deserves to know her secret great-granddaughter

Dear Abby: My family has been keeping a secret from my grandmother. I have a 17-month-old daughter that she doesn’t know exists. I wanted to tell my grandma from the start about her great-granddaughter (her first), but I am afraid to. My family thinks that telling her will cause too much stress on her. No one in the family takes my feelings into consideration.

I think my grandmother should know she’s a great-grandma. The problem is, I don’t know how to tell her. She’s 90 years old. I’m afraid if I say something now, it really MIGHT be too stressful for her. Also, I’m afraid that if I reveal this secret, it will start a family feud.

I want a relationship with my grandma like I used to have. I cry every time I talk to her on the phone because I have to lie to her about my day-to-day life and why I can’t come to see her. I am really starting to resent my family. Please help.

Secret Mommy In Nevada

Dear Secret Mommy: Your grandmother wasn’t born yesterday; she’s 90. I’m sure that in her decades of living, she has seen plenty of life.

While she will probably be shocked that she was kept in the dark this long, I agree she should know the truth. She should also know that you love her, which is why you are telling her the news. She may or may not want to see her great-grandchild, but the choice should be hers.

Dear Abby: I’m in my 70s, married for 50 years. I worked outside the home for many years and earned retirement benefits. There have been many ups and downs in my life, for me personally, as well as for members of my family. Of course, there have been good times, too. I feel blessed.

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