Uncertain In Kentucky
Dear Uncertain: Explain this to your daughter just as you have written it to me. Taryn isn’t a little girl. I presume she has chores to do and earns an allowance. If she wants to give her mother a gift or a card, she should pay for it. But if she wants to spend more money for it than she has, she should ask her stepdad to chip in.
Dear Abby: I’m a 15-year-old girl. I find it very hard to be a teenager where I live. It seems most of my friends have boyfriends, but most of my friends have gone very far with their boyfriends. I’m too scared to. I don’t feel ready for something like that.
I kind of want a boyfriend, but it’s hard to find one because most guys want to go too far. I don’t want to talk about this kind of stuff with my mom. I hope you get the chance to answer.
Teen Out West
Dear Teen: I’m sorry you can’t discuss this with your mother because if you did, she could share her experience with you, and that’s a valuable asset to have.
I have always advised that when people start dating, they do it in groups, which takes away a lot of the pressure of feeling you have to do anything you don’t want to do. If that ever happens to you, you have the right to say “no,” “stop!” “I’m not ready for that,” etc. Some girls are reluctant to say it loudly and clearly, which is a big mistake. Most men understand that no means no — but if a girl doesn’t state it clearly, they think it’s OK to continue. If you follow this advice, your problems will be greatly minimized.