Stuck In Smalltown, U.S.A.
Dear Stuck: All of life is a risk. Please listen to your family. I think you know in your heart that you need to experience a little independence. If you don’t take advantage of the opportunity you have been given, you will indeed be “Stuck in Smalltown, U.S.A.” Forever.
Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. She is a Realtor, and I’m a maintenance worker. I work eight hours a day, five days a week and sometimes on weekends and overtime when needed.
My wife thinks that when I’m off on weekends, I should be working around the house. I have tried telling her that those are my days off to do what I prefer or just relax. I do maintenance work all week, and then she expects me to do it on weekends, too? I don’t mind it occasionally, but with her, it’s every weekend. I feel like getting a divorce because of her never-ending demands.
I also play in a band with my friends on Sunday evenings. It’s only once a week, but she gives me flak about that, too. I’m at work 40 hours a week and with her every evening except Sunday. I don’t fish, play golf, hang out at bars, chase women or have any other hobbies. How can I get her to understand?
Wants To Relax
Dear Wants: Have you told your wife you feel like divorcing her because of her never-ending demands? It might be a way to get her attention.
Tell her that you’re willing to fix things around the house one or two days a month, but if her punch list requires more than that, she should hire someone.
And as to your playing in the band — invite her to come and listen if she wants, but make it plain that you don’t intend to stop.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.