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November 20, 2013

Dear Abby: Wife hoping for baby wants husband to stop using drugs

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Everyone else in the family works hard to support themselves, so I can’t understand how this attitude is tolerated. What has pushed me over the edge is they have announced they’re going to have a “bankruptcy party.” They have invited everyone over to enjoy food and beverages that will be purchased with a credit card they have no intention of paying.

I feel an obligation to alert the disability office to her misrepresentation. My husband agrees that what they’re doing is wrong, but he doesn’t want me to do anything about it. This has caused a problem between us because I no longer want to go to family dinners. I know if I keep going and have to listen to them laugh about using taxpayer dollars to support their laziness, I will eventually explode. What do you think about this?

Somewhere In The U.S.A.

Dear Somewhere: I think your relatives are committing fraud and that it should be reported. Disability payments were meant for individuals who truly need them, not those who are gaming the system. And if you choose not to associate with these kinds of morally bankrupt individuals, you shouldn’t have to. I can see how it would ruin your appetite. Shenanigans like this should be investigated and the abusers prosecuted to the full extent of the law.

Dear Abby: Well, here is a new one on me. I was walking through a Macy’s looking for my wife, and right there in front of me was a 40-something woman in her bra trying on a blouse! Please tell me — is this the new normal?

Greg In Gainesville, Fla.

Dear Greg: It’s unusual, but not unheard of — particularly if all of the dressing rooms are in use. In order to prevent this from happening again, avert your eyes when you’re in the women’s department.

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