Grandma In St. Pete, Fla.
Dear Grandma: Would you prefer your grandson remember you as the grandmother whose eye he could spit in, tell her it’s raining and she would accept it? It would be better to ask him why he feels it is necessary to lie to someone who loves him, tell him that you expect honesty from him and if you don’t receive it there will be MORE consequences. Remember, you are also a part of the team, and this is an important life lesson he needs to learn.
Dear Abby: My only son is 18. He didn’t attend his prom. He quit school and goes to night school instead. I’ll never see him in a cap and gown, holding his diploma. On top of that, he told me six months ago that he’s bisexual and that he has a boyfriend in the U.K. I’m having a hard time with all of this.
I taught my son to love and respect everyone, regardless of race, religion or sexual orientation. Now I’m afraid I won’t have any grandchildren. Even more upsetting, he wants to move to the U.K. to be with his 26-year-old boyfriend.
I feel so cheated — no prom, no graduation, no grandchildren! I’m scared and I cry every day. How do I accept him being him?
Cheated In Connecticut
Dear Cheated: OK, so reality isn’t in sync with your fantasy about how your son would turn out. But why are you dwelling on the negative?
Your son is completing his high school education and with his GED could very well go on to college or a technical school. While he didn’t attend his prom, he has found a meaningful relationship. He may eventually give you the grandchildren you long for — other same-sex couples have done it.