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October 21, 2013

Dear Abby: Woman who left bad marriage hesitates to take next step

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Dear Perplexed Daughter: Your father is a product of his upbringing during the Great Depression, a time when many people were starving. The habits people form when they are young can be hard to shake.

One reason that perishable products have a “sell by” date is that the food begins to lose its nutritional value. As to your father’s excuse that he’s ingesting “penicillin” when he eats moldy fruits, vegetables, baked goods and dairy products — I’m sure his doctor would prefer he get it by prescription only.

Spoiled food can cause serious illness, which is why the U.S. government publishes pamphlets on the important topic of food safety. Visit www.foodsafety.gov and print out some of the “Food Safety at a Glance” charts for him.

If he refuses to take your advice and mine, perhaps he’ll be more receptive to what Uncle Sam has to say.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend of two years, “Jesse,” has suddenly changed. He’s pushing me away. We are both 17 and have a 9-month-old baby.

Jesse spent the first six months of our son’s life in state custody. Since he has been back, he has been really distant.

He ignores me and isn’t affectionate anymore. When I get upset about it, he denies it and says I have no reason to be upset.

I’m scared our relationship isn’t as strong as I thought. My son deserves a family, but it’s falling apart. What should I do?

Troubled In Tennessee

Dear Troubled: You have no idea what might have happened to Jesse after he was sent away, so give him some space, but let him know that if he wants to talk about it, you are willing to listen and be supportive. Don’t push and don’t be clingy. You may have to be strong for all three of you. Complete your education, take parenting classes and encourage Jesse to do it, too. Do this and your son WILL have a family, whether or not it’s the one you thought you’d have with Jesse.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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