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November 6, 2013

Dear Abby: Daughter’s absentee father is present for his other kids

Dear Abby: For 21/2 years, I have taken care of my daughter without the help of her father. He pays child support only when the courts threaten to throw him in jail, but he never comes to see her. When he does come by, it’s not to see or spend time with her, it’s to try and get sex from me. Sometimes, I give in and give it to him as an itch to scratch.

He recently got “married” and now has four other children. The last time he was over, I noticed that he has all his children’s initials tattooed on his arm except our daughter’s, and it bothered me.

I only want what is best for my little girl, and I have made it clear that if he isn’t a part of her life now, that he needs to stay away until she’s an adult. I don’t want her to be hurt by a part-time or sometimes dad. I guess my question is, is it OK to be angry that he doesn’t recognize her as his child but does his other four?

Po’d In Ohio

Dear Po’d: Oh, goodness gracious, yes. And because you don’t want your child to be hurt by this man, I’m advising you to quit being his booty call. There are other ways to scratch an itch, depending upon whose itch it is. If you continue seeing him under these circumstances, you could wind up being the mother of another one of his children, God forbid.

Dear Abby: I am writing this hoping that anyone who is in a supervisory position at work will see it and think before pressuring employees to buy popcorn, cookies, wrapping paper, trinkets, chocolate bars, etc., for their children’s schools or organizations. This is extortion. I have tried saying, “No, thank you,” but I get such a bad attitude from my supervisor that I end up ordering something — usually the cheapest item — to avoid the drama.

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