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November 6, 2013

Dear Abby: Daughter’s absentee father is present for his other kids

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I can’t afford to drop $20 here and there on items I wouldn’t otherwise buy or eat. It’s a lot of money to employees who haven’t had wage or benefit increases in more than four years. I can barely keep my car filled with gas and have to unroll coins sometimes to pick up food for dinner a day or two before payday.

PLEASE tell bosses and managers not to solicit sales from employees. It’s tacky!

Turned Off In Pennsylvania

Dear Turned Off: I’m happy to get the word out because I agree that the sales tactic your supervisor is using is tacky. Parents who do this for their children deny the kids the experience of doing the selling and learning to cope with rejection if prospective customers don’t buy.

Because you don’t have $20 to spare, you might be able to deflect the “attitude” by offering a small donation — a dollar or two — to the cause. But if you can’t spare any money, then stiffen your spine and don’t let yourself be made to feel guilty. Buying things you don’t need is not part of your job description.

Dear Abby: My sister-in-law wrote the following to my husband in a birthday card: “I couldn’t find a card that really fit you. None of them said ‘sweet, kind, sexy, lovable, friendly, intelligent, or one of the best brothers-in-law ever,’ so I’m telling you in my own words. If I could get ahold of my husband’s money, I’d send you on a cruise.”

Was this appropriate? I don’t think so. My husband says she didn’t mean anything. Help?

Shocked In Tennessee

Dear Shocked: Speaking of cruises, throw your sister-in-law a lifesaver, because I think she went overboard.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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