Heartbroken In Hoboken
Dear Heartbroken: Frankly, I think Chico is trying to break it to you gently that it’s over. Wish him well and let him go.
You probably meant well, but the problem with giving someone “directions” is, it prevents that person’s own compass from guiding him where he needs to go. Look at it this way: This may be a period of growth for Chico and for you as well.
Dear Abby: I have been dating someone over the last two years and our relationship has had a lot of ups and downs. We are in our 50s and we have both been married before.
The problem is, he thinks he always has to be right. He’ll never admit to being wrong. We love each other and spend most of our time together, but every time we have an argument, he calls our relationship off. I am always the one who calls to patch things up. Should I let this relationship go once and for all?
Tired Of The Drama In Atlanta
Dear Tired Of The Drama: Yes, I think so. Your gentleman friend has an unhealthy way of dealing with conflict. Unless your idea of a happy marriage is one in which you are always the peacemaker, I doubt it would last.
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