Just Wondering In Connecticut
Dear Just Wondering: If your daughter’s ex wants to claim paternity without a paternity test, there is no legal basis I can think of to prevent him from being considered the father. While your daughter has reason to be angry at her ex and to dislike the woman with whom he cheated, she can’t prevent her children from seeing the baby if he wants them to.
(P.S. You’d think her ex would WANT to know for certain, but it takes all kinds ...)
Dear Abby: What is the best way to answer your children when they ask if you have taken drugs? I smoked a little marijuana back in college but stopped before graduation, and I haven’t done it since.
My children are about ready to go to high school. I have avoided answering their questions in the past, but I know I’ll have to say something sometime. What?
Tongue-Tied In Anytown, Usa
Dear Tongue-Tied: I don’t believe in lying to children. When you are asked, tell them you tried it in college, didn’t like it and considered it a waste of time. Then tell them that as long as they are living under your roof, using ANY illegal substance will not be condoned.
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