Hurt Feelings In Oregon
Dear Hurt Feelings: While I can see that you might be disappointed, what I regard as your problem may be the lack of honest communication between you and your husband. He may have reasons for preferring you not work in the family business that have nothing to do with the strength or value of your marriage. It might be that he is new in his position as general manager, that working in ANY family business can be stressful, that he’d prefer separation between his working life and his family life, or that other family members might object.
Let the subject rest for a while, and when you do raise it again, try to do it in a nonconfrontational manner. If you do, he may be more open and less defensive with you about what his reasons are. And if you would prefer to work outside the home in addition to raising the children, consider submitting your resumes to other companies.
Dear Abby: My husband and I are approaching our 25th anniversary. We don’t have a lot of money to spend on a large party (our sons are 14 and 17). Are there inexpensive solutions? I’d prefer not to have it at our house.
Stumped In Georgia
Dear Stumped: Because you don’t want to entertain at your home, consider holding the celebration at a park, limiting the guest list and making it a potluck.
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