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June 19, 2013

Grandma on sidelines would like to join game

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A couple of months ago, one of my male friends — much younger than I and from my poker group — came to my home to take me to lunch. I had always assumed he was gay. I made a pass and ended up seducing him. He was a great sex partner, but he changed his mind about going to lunch afterward. He has never shown up for poker since and no one has heard from him.

I feel bad, but I am not ashamed and I would never say anything that would lead anyone to know what happened. Should I contact my former friend and reassure him? He’s a good man, and I worry about him.

:Missing A Friend In Miami

:Dear Missing: The man you seduced may not have been as comfortable with gay sex as you assumed he was. Try to contact him once, but if he wanted to see you again, he wouldn’t have disappeared. My advice is to leave it at that because it appears he isn’t interested in another round of poker — or anything else — with you.

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:Dear Abby: I have discovered that the man I have been seeing for several years has been stealing money from me. There is no question in my mind that it’s him. What is the best way to confront him? It breaks my heart, but I need to give him a chance to be honest about this.

I care for him as a person but no longer trust him. I know he’s going through a lot right now, but so are a lot of us. Please guide me. I don’t do confrontations well.

:Used In Indiana

:Dear Used: If you have proof of what he has done, a way to approach it would be to discuss with him IN A PUBLIC PLACE that money has disappeared — and you would like his “help” in figuring out where it went. Depending upon his response, you may have to take specific action by involving your lawyer, your CPA or the police.

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