Show them that you want them home by cooking their favorite meals, taking them to their favorite restaurants, having them invite their friends over, embracing their culture through texting, and knowing about their social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, etc.
Stay away from judging their behaviors that don’t directly impact you. In general, their friends, their choices and their pursuits are not up for you to comment on. Brain development continues to occur until a person’s mid- to late-20s. The choices they make are part of growing up.
Enjoy their new adult status. Talk to them like a peer and share concerns about their younger siblings. Remind them with praise that they’re role models now. Bond through discussions about your own college years. Debate current events and be open to their opinions.
Remind yourself of how much you changed during the ages from 19 to 29 and, when needed, get support from spouse, family, and friends.
Dr. Kate Roberts is a psychologist and parent coach on the North Shore. Questions can be directed to www.drkateroberts.com, www.twitter.com/DrKateParenting, www.facebook.com/Dr.KateRoberts or www.pinterest.com/DrKateParenting.