When she wore them to a school sporting event, my husband accused me of being a “bad friend” for not telling her that her rear view was getting the wrong kind of attention. Some of the other parents in the bleachers were snickering.
I guess if the situation were reversed, I’d want my best friend to give me a hint, but I’m not exactly sure how to do it. Am I wrong to just keep my mouth shut and mind my own business?
Anonymous in a Small Town
Dear Anonymous: Allow me to provide a couple of hints. First, tell your friend when you are alone and can’t be overheard, which will spare her unnecessary embarrassment. Second, ask, “When you bought those shorts, did you get a look at yourself from the back?” If she says no, provide her with a mirror so she can look over her shoulder at herself. Then explain that at the school event, some of the other parents were staring, and not too kindly.
You will be doing her a favor to speak up. That is what friendship is all about. And if she’s smart, she’ll thank you.
Dear Abby: I met this beautiful and awesome lady last Saturday and slept with her that night. Sunday, we spent most of the day texting back and forth. I asked her to dinner on Monday and she accepted. We did more texting on Tuesday night, which I initiated.
So, my question is, how much texting and pursuing is too much in trying to hang out with this woman? I’m really interested in her.
Pretty Cool Dude in Minnesota
Dear Pretty Cool Dude: How about giving her 24 hours to catch her breath? Because she keeps saying yes, the signs are good so far. Just be careful that in your enthusiasm your ardor doesn’t come across as overwhelming. If you do all the chasing, you’ll deprive her of the pleasure of chasing you back.
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