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February 25, 2013

Dear Abby: Loving grandfather is hurt by sudden silent treatment

:Dear Abby: My two adult granddaughters have rejected me, their doting grandfather. Their father gave me this explanation: “They are uncomfortable with the way you rub their shoulders and necks.”

These girls and both parents have misinterpreted my innocent expressions of affection, which haven’t changed since the girls were little. The only change is in their perception of my actions.

I am devastated. I asked twice to meet with these family members to discuss their concerns. It has been three months; no meeting time has been offered. There has been no contact, and neither girl has called me for any reason this year.

I can’t just stop loving those with whom I have forged a 20-year bond of affection. How can this rupture be repaired?

:Grieving Granddad

:Dear Grieving Granddad:@text1_boldintro\:: Clearly, there is a need for some professional mediation here, provided your granddaughters and their parents are willing. If your touches have been regarded as inappropriate, you should have been warned about it years ago. Obviously, something has made your granddaughters uncomfortable, and the rupture won’t heal until it can be discussed openly.

Dear Abby:@text1_boldintro\:: Lately, I have noticed that people are bringing their dogs shopping with them. I’m not talking about service dogs, but pets.

The other day, a woman brought her dog into the grocery store. While I’ll admit the little thing looked cute sitting in the shopping cart, someone else’s food will be in that cart next, and who knows where that dog’s feet have been?

Why does management allow this? I’m willing to bet money that if I were to bring my pit bull, Bruiser, inside the grocery store with me, I’d be stopped immediately. Talk about a double standard. I welcome your comments.

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