My problem is, Frank’s wife calls ME whenever she has a fight with her boyfriend. She confides in me like I’m her best friend. I have never talked to Frank about divorcing her, but I’m at my wits’ end over this whole circle. Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting my time with him. Abby, I’m a longtime reader who needs to find a solution to this soap opera. Please help me.
Getting Dizzy in East Boston
Dear Getting Dizzy: You need to talk to Frank about his degree of commitment to you. Two years is a long time to live with someone who’s married to someone else — let alone be trying to solve his wife’s love problems. Perhaps it’s time to distance yourself from both of them and figure out what you want to do for YOU.
Dear Abby: My friend “Maggie” is getting a divorce. She has been living with my husband and me for four months. She pays one-third of our utility bill but pays no rent.
My husband feels that since Maggie is living with us, she should pay something — even if it’s only $100 a month. She’s a lifelong friend, and I don’t know what to do. Maggie is very upset over her messy divorce. Should I ask her for rent money? (I don’t want to fight over this with my husband.)
Only Friend in Kentucky
Dear Only Friend: It depends on Maggie’s financial circumstances. If she has the money, it’s certainly OK to ask. If she doesn’t have the resources — or a job — she should consider finding one so she’s not completely financially dependent on others.
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