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December 6, 2013

Dear Abby: Sister caught on camera denies stealing earrings

Dear Abby: My parents and sister live three hours away, so my family stays with me when they come to town. Over the last few years, I noticed things began to disappear from my home. They are usually small and portable — earrings, in particular.

The idea of someone stealing from me was very upsetting. When I mentioned it to my sister, she suggested that it could be our housekeeper.

After my wedding band vanished, I had a security camera installed. A few months later, two more pairs of earrings went MIA, so I had the surveillance company review the tapes. It turns out the thief is my sister!

The idea that she has gone through my things and helped herself with no remorse after I opened my home to her disgusts me. When I confronted her, she denied it. She later told my mother that she did take the earrings but didn’t know why I wanted them “because they were so ugly.”

Christmas is coming, and I can no longer welcome her to my home. Why would she do this to me?

Trusted My Sister In Raleigh, N.C.

Dear Trusted: Not knowing your sister, I can’t say for certain why she would steal from you. She may have kleptomania and be unable to control her impulses. Or, she may resent you for what she perceives you have that she doesn’t (a happy life, lovely home, etc.) and has been taking the items to “even things up.”

While I don’t blame you for being upset, please understand that whatever her reason, she’s a troubled woman who needs help. Unless you lock up anything of value, she should not be in your home.

 

Dear Abby: We are part of a group of couples who meet monthly at one another’s homes to play cards. We usually play in the evening from 7 to 11 with the hosting couple providing light refreshments and dessert. Many years ago, one couple designated December as “their” month to celebrate New Year’s Eve. We start earlier with a meal and end after midnight.

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