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October 22, 2012

Dear Abby: Unpleasant mother-in-law should be politely ignored

:Dear Abby: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. We were becoming friends, going shopping together, etc. Boy, was I wrong. Now, five years later, I can’t stand her. Just 15 minutes with her sends me over the edge. She’s rude, judgmental and gossips like a teenager about everyone.

She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband’s favorite recipes. Guess what? After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed and added or omitted certain ingredients in every single one.

When I asked about it, she told me she just wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.

Then there was the time she was baby-sitting and took our son to see Santa Claus for the very first time without asking or telling us. That’s an event parents want to be part of. I found out about it months later when I looked through her scrapbook.

I’m not sure of her motives, but she has something against me. My husband is on my side 100 percent when it comes to his mother. He can’t stand to be around her either. What is the appropriate way to handle her? She makes us want to move away.

Ready to Pack in Ohio

Dear Ready to Pack: It isn’t necessary to move away to distance yourselves from people like your mother-in-law. Limit the time you spend with her. When you must see her, be careful not to say anything negative about anyone or give her sensitive information you don’t want shared. If you want to prepare a special food for your husband, go online and find recipes that haven’t been “doctored.” You’ll find plenty of them. Then let him rave about your cooking.

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