As for the incident with Santa, remember that your son was so young he probably has no memory of it. Many little children are frightened by big strangers in red suits, which is why smart parents don’t force the exposure. And now that you know what poor judgment your mother-in-law has, make other arrangements for a sitter when you need one.
But don’t cut her off. However she managed it, she created the wonderful husband with whom you are blessed.
Dear Abby: I am a divorced father of two children, one in college and the other in high school. I have reached a point in life where I can take trips and make time for me. I am well-educated and earn an above-average income. I’m in decent shape and considered a “catch” by many of the single women I encounter. But most of the women in my age bracket (mid-40s) or slightly younger no longer take care of themselves.
I’m looking for a very attractive woman to accompany me through life. Most single men I know also put a premium on a woman’s appearance. Why don’t women understand this? Where would you suggest finding a suitable partner for someone in my situation?
Mr. Particular in Tucson
Dear Mr. Particular: Start at the nearest gym. If that doesn’t net you what you’re trolling for, another place to look would be the Playboy Mansion in Los Angeles. Hef throws large parties there, many of which are charity fundraisers. Who knows? For a generous donation, you might meet a woman who meets your high standards — providing you have enough assets of your own to merit her interest.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.