Embarrassed in Houston
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Dear Abby: We have two family weddings coming up soon. One of our cousins has Down syndrome, among other medical problems. He’s a grown man, but he has the mental capacity and manners of a 7-year-old. His parents don’t discipline him, and he is out-of-control. He screams and talks loudly and will jump around on the dance floor and run into couples while they are trying to dance. His parents bring him to special occasions, even when it’s “adults only.”
The upcoming weddings will have receptions afterward and adult-only dances. Don’t his parents have any common sense? This family has the attitude that if he isn’t invited, then they won’t go. I have reached the point that it is fine with me. How do we make it clear that he is not welcome? It would be a shame to pay thousands of dollars for a wedding and have it ruined by his behavior. Most people probably won’t understand my point of view. What do you think?
Nervous in Utah
Dear Nervous: Regardless of your cousin’s age, because of his parents’ inability to control his behavior, he should not be invited to the weddings. Because they have the attitude that if he is not invited they won’t go, that’s their choice. Make your wishes clear, and your problem will be solved.
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