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November 1, 2012

Dear Abby: Father’s grave lies unmarked after widow spends his money

:Dear Abby: My father passed away a year ago, after being married to “Valerie” for 14 years. After his death, she got his life insurance. She paid for his funeral and the burial. She also bought a new house and a horse within two months of losing our father. Four months later, she was dating another man.

My sister and I didn’t ask for anything except a few articles of Dad’s clothing. Having spent all the insurance money, Valerie is now asking me and my sister to give her money for our father’s headstone. We feel his life insurance money should have been used for this. My question is, are we wrong for being angry with her? Isn’t she at least morally obligated to purchase his headstone?

Lost Grieving Daughter

Dear Daughter: Your stepmother should be ashamed of herself for foisting off her moral responsibility to her husband of 14 years. And no, you’re not wrong to be angry about it.

You and your sister must now decide if you can live with the thought of your father having an unmarked grave. Ask the people who manage the cemetery if they might allow you to have a special planting — a bush, perhaps — to be used as a marker in lieu of a headstone.

Dear Abby: Last night, I got a debt collection call for my brother, “Stan.” He and his wife, “Susie,” are ready to file for bankruptcy and have been dodging creditors left and right. This is the first time I have heard from Stan’s creditors, but creditors have called me about other family members, too. My relatives expect me to lie to the callers to protect them.

Abby, I pay my bills and pride myself on living an honest and open life. I feel bad for Stan and Susie, but is it right for them to expect me to deal with their creditors when they won’t?

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