I have sent a dozen notes over the last few months, and not one woman has been polite enough to respond. Any thoughts?
Dateless In Dayton
Dear Dateless: Please don’t let the lack of response make you quit putting yourself out there, because eventually you’re going to find someone if you keep trying. You are an intelligent man, and I am sure you have much to offer some lucky woman.
However, I would delicately point out to you that by not responding to your notes these women ARE sending you a message. It is possible that because the “chemistry” is wrong, they do not wish to get into a dialogue.
Dear Abby: I’m a 17-year-old girl and every time I meet people, they think I am 12. How do I look more my age? Please help me.
Honey In Georgia
Dear Honey: A way to accomplish it would be to go to a department store and ask at the cosmetics counter about a demonstration makeover to achieve a more sophisticated look. While you’re there, I’m sure a clothing salesperson would also be happy to accommodate you in finding items that girls your age are buying. A different hairstyle could also “update” your image if you are wearing it the way you did a few years ago.
P.S. While you may not think it now, later on you will regard your youthful appearance as an asset. Trust me on that!
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