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February 18, 2013

Dear Abby: Wedding dance jealousy may push partner away

:Dear Abby: My boyfriend of one year, “Eddie,” has been invited to the wedding of a waitress who works at a restaurant/bar he frequents. I was not invited. Eddie doesn’t dance and has slow-danced with me only once. When I told him I would not appreciate him slow-dancing with anyone there, we had a heated argument. Eddie told me I have no right to tell him what to do and that I’m trying to control him.

I have run this by many people — male and female — and they all say it’s inappropriate to slow-dance with anyone but your significant other, especially when she’s not present.

I feel Eddie has little regard for my feelings. If he really cared for me, he wouldn’t want to dance with anyone else. I am interested in your thoughts.

His Only Dance Partner

Dear His Only: If you would like to “graduate” from girlfriend to fiancee, you will stop trying to control him and tell him you hope he has a good time at the wedding.

Insecurity is not an attractive trait, so calm down and recognize that a dance is only a dance. From your description of Eddie’s lack of ability, I seriously doubt he will be a sought-after partner on any dance floor.

Dear Abby: Our two children (ages 4 and 1) have hyphenated last names. It works well, and the names sound elegant together.

My husband and I have made this known in the family and have discussed it when asked about it by various family members. However, over the last four years, our choice has been ignored by two relatives from separate sides of our family. They persist in using only my husband’s last name for correspondence and gifts. He has suggested returning the mail as “addressee unknown,” which I think might come across as rude.

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