I am a stay-at-home father and many times have had to resort to an awkward changing-table alternative to accomplish the task (though never a restaurant table), as there are very few changing tables in men’s rooms. In these dynamic, diverse and changing economic times, the ability to stay home and raise my children has been awesome, and I would do it over again in a heartbeat. It has been hard, however, because society still assumes that raising children is a woman’s job. Not only should there have been a changing table in the ladies’ room, but also one in the men’s room.
Abby, please help us proud papas to raise our children with the same facilities allowed the mommas of the world!
:Grant in Sunnyvale, Calif.
:Dear Grant: I apologize, and I’m glad to have the opportunity to not only help fathers everywhere to raise their children, but also to raise consciousness where it is needed.
Since the letter from “Cafe Crazy” was printed, I have heard from parents of both sexes, as far away as Denmark. Although some men’s restrooms are equipped with changing tables, not all are — and they should be. Another solution is a “family” restroom; however, many establishments have neither the money nor the room to install a third one.
:Dear Abby: Something has been bothering me, and I’d like your opinion. If a group of people goes out to eat together, and no one wants to order dessert except one person, is it rude for that person to keep everyone else waiting and watching while he/she orders and eats the dessert?
:Dear Check, Please: It’s not rude if you first ask the others in the group if they would mind, and they wanted to chat over coffee.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.