(2) Copy a list of their “likes” from Facebook and bring it with you. It may mention books, music, movies or other interests that will make it easy to track down something they would enjoy.
I hope this helps some of your readers.
Valerie in Fort Worth
Dear Valerie: Bless you for writing. I’m sure many parents and grandparents will take your suggestions to heart. Santa isn’t the only one who needs a “helper” at Christmastime.
Dear Abby: What do you think of a 30-year-old man who posted every detail about his breakup with my daughter on Facebook for all of their 1,000 friends and family members to read? There was some personal and very painful stuff.
Is this the “new generation” norm? Or is he immature and inconsiderate?
Hurting for my Daughter
Dear Hurting: Welcome to the wonderful world of the Internet, where millions of individuals have chosen to live their lives online for all to see.
And while you and I might consider what happened to be a form of kissing-and-telling, bragging, a bid for sympathy and in poor taste, the people who love your daughter will “unfriend” this person, and those who love gossip will devour every detail with relish.
In time your daughter will realize she is lucky this relationship is over. Whether her former boyfriend used Facebook to gain 15 minutes of fame or as a weapon to hurt her, I think she can do better. Don’t you?
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.