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December 10, 2012

Dear Abby: Girl knows truth about Santa, but Mom refuses to fess up

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I guess what I’m asking is, should I pay attention to what my family is saying or tell them to mind their own business?

OK by Myself in South Carolina

Dear OK: Constant togetherness is no guarantee that a marriage will be successful. If it was, you wouldn’t be divorced from your “ever-present” ex. When choosing a partner, it is important to listen to both your heart and your head.

Continue the relationship and see how it plays out. Tell your family you appreciate their concern, but this is something you must decide for yourself. “Mind your own business” seems a bit harsh.

Dear Abby: I see a very skeletal woman every day at my gym. She does an hour on the situp machine. Her stomach sticks out like a person suffering from starvation. It hurts to look at her.

I feel I have a moral obligation to do or say something in case she is suffering from anorexia. However, I would not feel obligated to say anything to an obese woman at the gym. I am also afraid this person may have another condition that is causing her to waste away.

How should I offer support to her? Or should I just ignore her like the other people at the gym do?

Working Out

With my Eyes Open

:Dear Working Out: If you would like to reach out to her, be friendly, but do not comment on her appearance. As you get to know each other, you will learn more about her condition — if she has one. If you say anything right off the bat, it could be considered rude, nosy or insensitive, so I don’t recommend it.

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