Wants my Space
Dear Wants Your Space: You are asking an emotionally loaded question. While, rationally, five years should be long enough, clearing “his” room instead of maintaining it as a shrine may feel like abandonment to your adult child.
Give Dustin a little more time to adjust — like six months — and then insist that he find a place for his things. That way, it will be a little less traumatic.
Dear Abby: During these hard times, may I tell you about my daughter? Every year at Christmas, I let our children pick one present for around $30 for themselves. They know that we don’t have a lot of money and that “Santa” brings only a few presents.
My daughter chose to give her “Christmas money” to a charity so that another family can be blessed. She’s only 9, and she understands that there are families who are in more need than us. She truly is an angel for reminding me of that.
I went to our local food pantry and told them what my daughter wanted to do for Christmas. The director wrote her a letter of thanks and explained how many families her $30 would be helping. I’m so proud of my girl. Sometimes it takes a child to remind us how all of us should act.
Blessed in Illinois
Dear Blessed: Yes, it’s true. But invariably it takes good parents to instill a spirit of empathy and generosity in their children. So some of the credit belongs to you.