Is it fair to divide the time in half — half for his family and half for mine — even though I have so many more relatives on my list? Or should we divide our time by the number of households we need to see? These issues cause my husband and me to argue, and it makes what is supposed to be a vacation very unpleasant. I already feel like canceling the trip.
:Dear Vacation Issues: A solution would be to have two large family get-togethers — one for your family and another for his — during your visit. Then, if you want to visit with the relatives from the two branches of the families individually, you can “divide and conquer.” He can spend as much time as he wishes with his relatives, and you can spend time with yours.
:Dear Abby: Every year, my workplace sponsors a community blood drive. I am invariably asked by co-workers if I am going to donate. Because I am HIV-positive, I answer no. Then the person asks me why.
Abby, it is no one’s business. There could be many reasons — ranging from health to religious to personal. Or a person may simply not want to donate.
I would give if I could. Please ask your readers not to question others about whether they will donate blood. Have you any suggestions about how I should respond?
On the Job in Idaho
:Dear On the Job: A polite deflection would be to make light of it by saying, “I just don’t.”
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