While I support his desire to protect our family, I’m frightened by the much more immediate possibility of an accident happening, or the children finding them and harming themselves or someone else.
We plan to start a family in the near future, and I have tried to talk him into either getting rid of the guns or storing them elsewhere. Every time I raise the subject, it turns into an argument and he insists he won’t get rid of them. I’m at a loss about how to resolve this problem. Any advice?
Unwilling To Give Up In Pennsylvania
Dear Unwilling: Would your vegetarian, wouldn’t-harm-a-fly husband consider trigger locks for his weapons or a gun safe? If not, then perhaps you should consider raising your children with a man who isn’t already married to his guns.
Dear Abby: What do you do if you like a teacher? Do you just hide it? He always comes to my table and I can’t focus because I get so distracted. I think he’s very good-looking. I’m 13 and he’s 23. What should I do?
Crushing In California
Dear Crushing: What you’re experiencing happens in countless classrooms and it’s perfectly normal. Unless you’re an accomplished actress, hiding your feelings would be like trying to smuggle dawn past a rooster. Function as best you can, and don’t stare at him because it could be embarrassing for him. If you want to impress him, be his top-achieving pupil. The strong emotions you’re feeling will fade once an attractive young man your age appears on the horizon. Trust me on that, because I’m speaking from experience.
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