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October 18, 2013

Dear Abby: Only time can truly heal pain of losing beloved pets

Dear Abby: You gave some nice advice to “Afraid of the Loss” (June 25), who wrote concerning the impending death of a beloved pet. I think your suggestion of a support group is helpful, but having lost a pet I had for 16 years, I have experienced the deep pain this man will feel.

Adding a second pet to his home while his pet is still alive often energizes an older pet. When the time comes, it will help the human to have another loving pet to help with the grieving.

As I learned, only time was able to take the deep hurt to a place where I could think of him without tears. Keeping the ashes of a pet can be comforting, whether you choose to bury them later or tuck them away in your home.

Most important is having a plan for when that moment comes so you automatically know what needs to be done. It really helped to have all the details of his final moments thought out so I felt in control.

I wouldn’t have missed the love of my dog even knowing the pain that has to come in the end. It’s something that should be on everyone’s bucket list.

Cathy In California

Dear Cathy: My thanks to you and all the readers who sent heartfelt letters supporting “Afraid.” It’s easy to see why dogs are called man’s best friend because of all the love, affection, entertainment and companionship they give us, and why we only want the best for them in this life and after. Read on:

Dear Abby: Your pet is your child. Anyone who doesn’t understand that isn’t worth worrying about when the loss occurs. Will it hurt? Of course. But the pain does ease in time.

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