Dear Abby: Seven years ago, I was in a relationship with a man I thought was my soul mate. (I’ll call him Louis.) We were together for two years and had planned on getting married right after college. Louis ended up breaking the engagement and six months later married another woman. I was shocked and heartbroken. We went our separate ways.
Louis contacted me recently. He apologized for the past and said he was out of his mind for losing me. He also said he was recently divorced and wants to see me to “catch up.”
I have healed from the heartache and moved on, but I am not currently in a relationship. I am content with my life. The problem is, my curiosity and my heart are tripping me up. I’m wary of falling back in love with Louis and don’t want to reopen any old wounds.
What do you think, Abby? Should I meet him and see what happens, or let the past stay where it is?
:Over Him? In New York
:Dear Over Him?: Louis may be a cad — or he may have become more mature in the last seven years. Because you are curious, I think you should go. But if he starts wooing you again, do not get serious unless you have had couples counseling. It’s important that you clearly understand what went wrong in your romance the first time so it doesn’t happen again.
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