My problem is, I have an 8-year-old daughter, and I don’t know how she would handle it if I were to date a woman instead of a man. I am also afraid of how my family would react.
Our attraction is unspoken, but I can see it when I look into her eyes. Should I admit my feelings or should we remain friends?
:Afraid Of My True Feelings In Ohio
:Dear Afraid: I am reluctant to advise you to spend the rest of your life living a lie in order to avoid upsetting your family, because I don’t think it would be healthy for you.
Talk to your friend. Once you are sure the relationship with this woman is serious, mutual and lasting, you can tell your daughter you are dating. Children are adaptable, and this may be less of a surprise to her than you fear. My advice is to listen to your heart, and you won’t go wrong.
:Dear Abby: My husband and my son get along better with me when they’re not together. When I am there, they gang up on me and become adversarial. I have reached a point where I hate to be around them at the same time.
I don’t know what to do about this. When I try to talk to my husband about it, he gets angry and blames me. I don’t think I can take much more. What do you think about this?
:Three’s A Crowd In South Carolina
:Dear Three’s A Crowd: If picking on you is part of their male bonding, it’s unhealthy. Your husband may do it because he has underlying anger issues he doesn’t express directly to you. Your son may participate because his father encourages it, but he should not be allowed to treat you with disrespect.