Am I a bad husband for feeling this way? I don’t want Molly to go through life regretting not having the daughter she always wanted, but there is no guarantee it will happen if we decide to try again.
I make a fair living, but with additional mouths to feed come additional financial responsibilities. I’m afraid I won’t be able to provide for my growing family as I need to. Am I right in my thinking, or am I being overly cautious?
:Stopping At Three In Pennsylvania
:Dear Stopping At Three: You are thinking clearly. At 37, and with her medical history, your wife would be considered “at risk” if she becomes pregnant again. While I sympathize with the fact that she yearns for a daughter, allow me to share a true story with you:
A man was in a similar situation to yours, but he had four daughters. So, he and his wife decided they would try “one more time” for a son. Sure enough, his wife became pregnant. She delivered beautiful identical twin ... daughters. At that point, he gave up and had a vasectomy!
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