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July 23, 2013

Dear Abby: Wife of alcoholic shouldn’t buy him booze

:Dear Abby: It happened again today! I was buying several bottles of wine and a six-pack of beer along with my other groceries. While I was standing in the checkout line, someone behind me said the predictable, “I wish I was going home with you!”

I’m married to an alcoholic, and it makes me so sad that people think a lot of alcohol is “fun.” It’s a tragedy for our family to see a great husband, father and grandfather slip into a stupor each day. It wasn’t always this way. Sadly, he has changed so much he is hardly recognizable.

I’m asking those out and about to think before you comment, because alcohol is not something to celebrate.

:Wife Of An Alcoholic Down South

:Dear Wife: Why are you buying large quantities of liquor for your alcoholic husband? When you do, you enable him to feed his addiction. If I ever heard of someone who should attend Al-Anon meetings, it is you. Al-Anon was started by the wife of an alcoholic who was just like your husband. When you go, you will meet other wives whose husbands’ drinking is also out of control.

If you would prefer a secular organization, an alternative program to contact would be SMART Recovery. Its Family and Friends program was created for loved ones who are affected by someone’s addiction. If there isn’t a meeting in your area, you can attend one online. Go to www.smartrecovery.org and click on Online Meetings and Activities to register. Please don’t wait. These organizations can help both you and your husband.

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Dear Abby: On behalf of my fellow museum docents, I’m asking you to educate your readers about how to behave when they visit our nation’s historic buildings. The most important rule is: Do Not Touch Anything!

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