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November 25, 2013

Dear Abby: Jealous girlfriend must watch her step on the dance floor

Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Jose,” for a year. Before that, we were friends for five years. Ever since I’ve known him, he and his half-sister, “Blanca,” have danced together at parties. We’re all in our mid-20s.

They dance salsa, merengue and other styles of music together. I used to think it was cute, but now that Jose and I are a couple, I find it annoying and a little creepy. He says Blanca loves to dance and can’t always find good partners.

She gets mad when he dances with me instead of her during her favorite songs. I told Jose he can dance only with me at the parties or only with her. Not both. I don’t want to share him, and honestly, people joke that it’s incestuous.

How can I make him understand how much this bothers me? What can I say to his half-sister when she gives me the evil eye? My relationship with her is friendly, but it was better before I started dating her half-brother.

Takes Only Two To Tango

Dear Takes Only Two: If you want to hang onto Jose, simmer down and be less heavy-handed. Dictating who he can dance with only makes you appear to be jealous, insecure and controlling.

Because he and Blanca have danced together for so long, it’s understandable that she expects to dance with him. My advice is to be gracious and hold onto your temper, because if you don’t, your relationship with Blanca will no longer be friendly, and it could cost you your boyfriend.

 

Dear Abby: My mother-in-law is a good person, but she never wants to be around us or our children. She lives only 30 minutes away, has only one child (my husband) and has been widowed for more than five years. She has never called our house, didn’t visit when the kids were born and usually mails gift cards at birthdays and Christmas.

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