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April 22, 2013

Dear Abby: Mom wants ex to be a good sport and watch his son play

:Dear Abby: My 14-year-old son, “Nils,” recently joined a sport he really enjoys. His stepdad and I are at every practice, helping the coaches and coaching my son along.

Nils recently commented to me that he would like it if his father could come and see him practice. I took it upon myself, as I usually do, to call my ex, “John,” and suggest he make an appearance because it would make our son happy.

My husband, who has been a wonderful stepdad to Nils for 13 years now, told me I should leave it alone. He said if John was a “real” father, he would just show up without being asked.

When things like this happen, should I leave it alone, or should I ask John to be involved more than he tries to be? I tell my ex about all of our son’s activities, and sometimes he just doesn’t show.

:Trying to be a Good Mom

:Dear Trying: Not knowing your former husband, I can’t guess his reason for not coming to your son’s practices, particularly if he said he was going to attend. John may be irresponsible, or he may have unforeseen scheduling conflicts. By telling him about your son’s activities and letting him know his presence is wanted, you have done your job as a conscientious mother. At 14, Nils is old enough to also call his father and invite him. The rest is up to your ex.

:Dear Abby: In reference to the letter from the man who was constantly setting off “gaydar” alarms in females (March 10), I would like to share my experience.

I dated and then married a man who incorrectly set off MY “gaydar.” It had nothing to do with his mannerisms, his speech or appearance. It was his extreme personal insecurity regarding dating and making friends. In addition, “Mr. Not-Gay” could neither read nor write, which caused even more emotional insecurity.

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