We have gone round and round about this to the point of exhaustion. Should I let this go or continue to insist that their relationship be redefined?
:Uneasy In Florida
:Dear Uneasy: Looking from the outside in, I suspect that your wife is enjoying all the attention she’s receiving from this young man. She’s in her mid-40s and it has to be flattering. This is not to imply that the communications will lead to anything more. So step back, find your sense of humor and try to be less heavy-handed until this blows over. Because it will.
:Dear Abby: My stepfather died recently. I found out when I saw his obituary in the newspaper. It described him as a “loving husband and father,” and while I know that’s a fairly generic epitaph, nothing about it is true. He was an alcoholic who had several affairs while married to my mother. He also abused me and my stepsiblings physically and sexually.
It’s bad enough that he died without having to face the consequences of his actions, but it kills me to know that “loving husband and father” is how our community and history will remember him now that he’s gone. Is there anything I can do to get some form of the truth out there?
:Angry In Tennessee
:Dear Angry: Yes, there is. Just keep talking and the word will get around.
:Dear Readers: To those of you living where daylight saving time is observed, I’m offering this gentle reminder: Turn your clocks forward one hour at bedtime tonight. Daylight saving time begins at 2 a.m. tomorrow, and you know what that means — spring is on the way!
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