Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We live together, and his child from another woman lives with us. I love my boyfriend and his child, but one thing prevents me from imagining us being married: He has his child’s mother’s name tattooed on his body.
The tattoo bothers me for many reasons, and I’d like him to have it covered up if we ever do marry. He says he doesn’t want to get rid of it. When the topic comes up, we argue.
Am I unreasonable for wanting him to get rid of the tattoo? If that woman really is in his past, why does he need a constant reminder of her on his body?
In A Stink Over Ink
Dear In A Stink: You’re asking the wrong person. Only your boyfriend can answer that. He may not want to go to the expense, or to experience the pain of having more artwork done. Or he may not like the idea that you are telling him what to do.
However, if he has been living with you for two years, I doubt it’s because he’s still carrying a torch for someone else. If you love him and the two of you want to get married, my advice is to accept him warts, artwork and all, because regardless of any romance in his past, YOU have habeas corpus. (That’s Latin for “you have the body.”)
Dear Abby: I consider myself a social person and enjoy talking to friends on the phone. My problem is, when I talk to one of them, she will never let me get off the phone. Sometimes we’ll talk for several hours, but eventually I have other obligations and have to go. When I tell her that, she often ignores me and keeps right on talking.